Why This Post?
Yesterday I was forced to step down as the admin from what is now known as Blogger’s World forum. I am getting many messages and emails asking about the reasons which led to this so I wanted to tell certain things to all members who are inquiring. I wanted to discuss a few things with forum members as I was parting but couldn’t as my post was immediately locked for comments. This is so ridiculous. I stayed an admin since the forum started and had to never moderate a single post or edit anything against any member’s will. I never locked any post for comments. Now what happened all-of-a-sudden which forced the admins to moderate my posts?
There are people who were part of discussion when forum was created. During August, 2015, Blogging 101–I proposed the idea to create the forum and many members supported. The thread still exists in the Commons, so members can refer to discussions over there if they want. The reason I entrusted Kristina to use her ID to create forum was because I have a trusting nature and I never thought this would boil down to this.
The Reason Given For Forcing Me Step Down As Admin:
- I edit posts of people. I edit grammar.
No, I clearly don’t. I have only edited certain things: like adding feedback tag and inserting read-more tags because they were necessities. I didn’t unduly ever edit posts of any members. I wrote a post telling about the things I had to edit. For most of the members I kept adding ‘feedback’ tags thinking that they will be helpful for forum in the long run and I get this in return.
2. I stalk members. I take their privacy away.
I did write a few emails to a member(I am not revealing the name to respect their privacy. I have told about them to many members and if needed I can tell the whole story here!) and the reasons were obvious: this member had romantic inclinations towards me. She came in contact out of mixed interests and romance was one of them. Since the very beginning(August) she started writing some poems which were romantic and clearly expressed her feelings for me(in poems). I wrote a few emails to encourage her and help her in writing with feedback. But she was insecure as well as cunning. I also took help from one of the members and then the matter stopped temporarily. This member took help from another friend to investigate about me and this friend became over friendly with me and invited me for Facebook chat. She started spending more than 8-10 hours everyday in chatting with me just to know more about me because it was a job given by the aforesaid member. Then she(aforesaid member) kept using the ‘intimate’ material of discussions in these chats in her poems.
Well, there is not much use in going in details here: but it is apparent that these emails which were part of private discussions are now being called as “stalking materials.” That too after about 4 months since they were written. They have no bearing on any forum activity whatsoever. I did my duties on forum as they were needed to be done. No other member(except those two involved in the same thing) has ever received any mails from me which is stalking in nature.
3. I insult people and then say I was “just joking.”
There clearly are a few people who were hurt by my jokes. They were the same people who kept joking in the beginning but then somehow it seemed I crossed the limit. Alright. I apologized them long ago but they didn’t really seem to have forgotten. Now as some new members joined they kept indulging in light-hearted banter with me until it became “intimidating” all of a sudden! How? Another case came where a member was stalking another member. They wanted to make him apologize on forum for that. But why? He didn’t commit any offence on forum. One of the members started a debate with that member and then as I took a stand to call a spade a spade: all I get to see is I am not needed anymore. She intimidated leaving forum unless I forced that member to apologize. I refused. The result is apparent. Some old grudges and new power struggles.
Here are active members of forum who supported me directly or indirectly:
Pam Christ. Meg Sorick. Deb. Maddy. Arpita. Joanne. Jane. Amanda. Lou. Jackie. Indira. Heather. This is after I left forum. I have either received an email or a direct message or a message on forum from each one of them!
Some of these were there since the first day. They have been featured authors and have contributed immensely to the forum. Now the question is: if these members are the ones who wanted to see me there as admin–who were the people intimidated by my presence and were threatening to leave? I can count merely 3 people including one of the admins. The reasons have been given up thread. I didn’t entertain childish demand of one of them to force another member to apologize when it was not justified. I could never know what happened with the other!
Nobody knows better than me about active members. If they say they do: they are telling a lie. I have not presented twisted facts here. It is apparent that admins have not really done justice by saying that majority of members wanted me out. Or one possibility is: some of the members I have written names of here wanted me out but now they are just saying this: with what to gain? This is impossible. So I take it that majority of members still support me and it was merely admins: acting because they were ‘intimidated’ by my presence. And why? It was me who insisted that Rashmi and I be given admin rights to manage forum well. Kristina was not willing to give admin rights to anyone. (Just because we asked her to go ahead and do forum set-up with her ID! How childish is that?) That was shocking because she was not a favorite to become admin anyway. We were equals as admins and there must have been a discussion and voting if they wanted me out. It really saddens that you work considering everyone as yours and trust and they become greedy for certain reasons and then blame it on you.