In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Flawed.”
What is your worst quality?
My worst quality is lack of tact and diplomacy while giving my opinion. I have been blunt to the extent of hurting my friends in past. This was not meant to hurt others but rather to help them improve. I expected the same from them. But it’s not always helpful to know our weaknesses. Sometimes we just need a helping hand, a smile or a kind gesture while we ask for opinions or help. I used to take a great pride in being honest with my opinion. I used to think that being truthful is the best way to go about it, even if it hurts people a bit.
Continuously speaking–and not being moderate with my opinion on others has caused me loss of many friends and well-wishers. It’s not that I regret that–because it was supposed to be so–it was my destiny–but the lesson I learnt is that I should have exercised caution.
Even here in the blogosphere, in the beginning, when I started giving feedback, sometimes I exercised no caution at all. It’s true that nobody really wants you to proof-read their posts in their comments section. Even if people ask you to correct their grammar they want you to do so via email. I used to put corrections directly in the comments section. When your comments are very big and look overweening, and contain corrections on thinking, grammar or style–they will not be liked. It’s a fact. Most budding bloggers and writers need encouragement and established ones really don’t care for your suggestions anyway. So even when someone asks you to give honest opinion, if you are too tempted, please use email and send then suggestions. You will know if they want you to continue giving those suggestions or not. Not everyone is blogging out there for the same reasons–so exercise tact and diplomacy. I feel most bloggers don’t need these suggestions–it’s just me. I have tried to exercise caution lately but maybe I can improve it a bit.
I have joined a course called Blogging 101: Commenting Bootcamp. It will be organized from December 14th to 18th by Blogging University. It will also help me and many others learn the art and technique of commenting more effectively. I am looking forward to it. I feel I needed to personalize the prompt for Blogging 101 course today and I am happy with what I have done. So far so good!