This post is based on The Daily Post’s prompt Handle With Care
How are you at receiving criticism? Do you prefer that others treat you with kid gloves, or go for brutal honesty?
What are kid gloves?
I don’t have any idea!
Sensitive and Vulnerable
I really don’t know how I am at receiving criticism. I feel I am sensitive and vulnerable and I have always been so. Still, I am learning day-by-day. I feel, only my friends, family and previous colleagues can tell how I am at handling it. If I say I am good, that might be biased(nay, bound to be biased.)
If I say I can’t take criticism at all, that might also be wrong. I feel I have improved a lot at receiving criticism. Most of the improvements in my personality and life have been because of my harshest critics. They have made me stronger. They have forced me to look inside me. Still, sometimes criticism might be too harsh to take and might crush the sensitive souls.
Harsh Criticism is Not Good
I have also been guilty of being frank and outspoken. Being frank and outspoken and preferring truth over tact and diplomacy has been my weakness. I am trying to improve upon it. As I started interacting with fellow friends and bloggers I came to learn more and more about my shortcomings. I genuinely want to help others by listening to them and by giving feedback. I feel it helps them and heals them. But if I don’t exercise moderation in this domain I run the risk of hurting people. This kills the purpose of entire exercise!
My harshest critics have undoubtedly helped me the most. I have over and over asked my friends and relatives for their sincere opinion about me, my personality. This has helped me improve as a person over years. Still, I will be honest about certain things. Some convictions came as life touched me deep and they have not changed even when some people criticized me about them. And they have indeed been life-altering in a most positive way. It’s where intuition takes over intellect.
Can I Take Criticism?
I prefer truth over appreciation for myself. I try to be polite and encouraging with others but I am not always very successful at it. For example–during past two months some of my fellow classmates might have seen me giving feedback on typo, grammar, style and messages on your posts in your comments section. I should have been patient and given feedback through email since I cared a lot. I feel sorry about it. Not everyone is disposed same, not everyone is blogging for the same reasons.
I feel, all the encouragement and support should be given to an artist and harsh criticism should not be given unless someone is very open to receiving it. But it really becomes a bit difficult to find out at times. If you want to stay in the safe zone, try to stay positive and give a hint only if someone asks sincerely, otherwise leave it and let it go. It really doesn’t matter much in the end. You need not be the teacher. People learn all the time, one way or the other.
Feedback is Important
I have felt that people have mostly treated me kindly. There has been some bullying in school, college and at work, but that was very minor. I sincerely believe that we all need feedback from environment to sustain and survive. A system which closes itself for feedback dies pretty soon. I am all for harshest criticism. Any of you reading out there–please bring it on. It doesn’t mean I will necessarily adapt, but I will most certainly listen what you have to say. Grammar, style, message, ideas, personality and anything else you really care for– I welcome you for any and all criticism about writing and ideas, though you don’t know much about my life story, so it might not be feasible to discuss about it. Thanks for reading, support, feedback and kindness.