You are my audience and friend. Life is your masterpiece. It’s easy to find differences when you want to find them. Our skin colors, heights, sexes, nationalities, languages, ethnicities, intellectual potentials, blood groups and many such factors might be different from those who interact with us everyday. If we want to differentiate it’s easy. If we want to alienate and isolate ourselves from others it’s easy. The question is whether it makes you happy or not.
If you have a scientific bent of mind you know about the Pleasure Principle. You are always working for pleasure and you can’t work for pain. If you like pain it’s a symptom of disorder and not something exhibited by a healthy organism. Sadists and masochists might say that they don’t crave for pleasure but actually they do. By inflicting pain on others and on themselves they feel pleasure until the decay starts setting in.
Sages have always said that bliss is your true nature. Love is your nature. Peace is your nature. You have been created by love. The world runs because of love for love by love. You may want a hundred and fifty things now but ultimately you want to be happy. In one guise or another you’re chasing happiness. All your life you run after happiness.
If you want to befriend people and share with them you would find love. Sharing is love, happiness and bliss. Without having your friends, family and loved ones by your side you feel extremely lonely even on top of the world. If you keep finding faults in others it is not going to help you find friends. It would make you get more of them. Your world would become even more of a mess than it already is. The first law of behavioral psychology states you get more of what you reinforce. If you reinforce the behavior of finding faults in people, in the system and in the world around you would start finding more and more of them.
The world is not a perfect place. Not by any means. Some people are more fortunate than others. If you share your happiness with others you get more happiness. What you give to the world comes back to you because it’s one reality. Whatever you give you give only to yourself. You are not really different from others. In your heart there is a thread of love which connects you with everyone else. If you choose to help others and work for their welfare your happiness grows a million times. You might be an atheist, an agnostic, religious or a spiritual person. You might be a liberal, an anarchist, a communist or a democrat. It doesn’t matter when it comes to happiness. You always want happiness, peace and bliss.
Ignoring differences and identifying similarities is the way to get connected with others. It’s the way to increase amity and harmony. The awareness that you are not different from others makes you feel the presence of an all-pervading energy which is your true nature. You would be surprised to see the amount of happiness you get when you earnestly work for the happiness of others. It’s ironic that we isolate ourselves from others and pursue our ambitions only to be recognized by others. Don’t you find it comical that all of us keep pursuing our ambitions, interests and hobbies so that we are considered specialists, geniuses, masters and perfectionists? Who would call you a genius? Others would. And for what? For having put immense effort into something which you considered your own. Original. You write to get clarity. You start getting clarity and crystal clarity when you actually start sharing it with others and get feedback for it. You will not get any feedback unless you connect with others and still if you crave to be different —you are creating a vicious cycle for yourself.
I have heard an interesting story–a poignant story.
A dog once entered into a big palace. The palace had very high walls. All those walls had big mirrors on them. There were thousands of mirrors on every wall and there was no place inside the palace which had walls without mirrors on them. As soon as the dog entered inside the palace he saw his images in those mirrors. Two mirrors in front of each other can create many images. The dog saw his infinite images and became frightened. It thought that it was surrounded by thousands of dogs and started running. Other dogs also started running. This made it even more shocked and scared. The dog started barking loudly with all its might. The louder it barked the louder the echo returned back to it. The dog kept barking until it exhausted itself and went crazy. In the end it died crazy and frustrated.
This symbolic story is a beautiful truth about your existence. You see yourself in the world. If you don’t love yourself you won’t be able to love others. We love ourselves the most but our image of our own self might just be an illusion–a shadow–which might be why we start disliking and even hating ourselves when it’s hurt. If you lose your possessions, beauty or prestige you get hurt badly. And we start hating ourselves. This in turn makes us full of hatred towards others too. You have seen that when you fall in love with something or someone you start loving yourself too. And when you love yourself you start loving everyone around you. It reflects that reality is one no matter how you approach it. If you want to be happy try giving happiness to others. Give and it will come back to you a thousand times multiplied. Keep giving back whatever comes to you and it would become million times more. Letting go is the way to live. Acceptance of what is leads to harmony and peace.
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